Today’s post is a bit off my usual course (I can hear you now, “Course? Is she ever ON course?). It is an insider’s peak at a recent conversation with my teenage son. One of those rare times when innocent dialogue quickly spun itself into an opportunity to invite him to look through my world-view goggles. We all have our goggles – and they almost always distort or refract what we see. We get so accommodated to them that we run the risk of our goggle-blurred vision becoming the way we perceive ourselves. My daily work has caused me to evaluate my goggles. It’s led me to reject a pair that I was given as a youngster (ones that were cloudy with fear and worry) in favor of ones that I got to show off to my son as we talked about our seemingly chaotic world.

The story started with my son trying to process the eruption of senseless violence we’ve heard about of late – people committing unspeakable crimes against their fellow man in the name of religion, politics and seemingly for no reason at all.  It’s a sad social commentary that a young man was still appropriately disturbed by the news while many of us ‘more mature’ folk have lost our stunned feeling in favor of a ‘here we go again’ numbness from having seen it all before… but that’s not the point of this story. The point of this story is him calling me out on my admission that I’d heard the headline news but rejected the urge to dive into the wall-to-wall coverage. He labeled it irresponsible. I called it willful, blissful ignorance – a very deliberate choice.

My son made a strong, common argument. Knowledge is power. We must seek to understand so that we can dowse the fiery motivations. Forewarned is forearmed.  Having an informed offence is usually a reliable defense. Know your enemy. Understanding the mind of evil might just help protect us against it.  We’re living in a 24-hour news-cycle world – it seems like there’s nothing we can’t know if we’re willing to dig deep enough. Isn’t it our responsibility to consume what we’re lucky to get? “Mom,” it seemed he was saying, “doing the equivalent of sticking your fingers in your ears while chanting ‘I can’t hear you’ is beyond just immature, it’s pretty darn irresponsible.”

And here’s what I told him – I’ve given my ‘ignorance’ a lot of careful thought. And it’s pretty much the most sensible response I could find to all the ‘crazy’. It’s very much a choice I made to be responsible to myself. And I believe it’s ultimately being responsible to my desire for the highest and greatest resolution of the turmoil the world seems in.

And it’s far from the easy choice. Shutting out the ‘bad-news’ that we’re continually bombarded with (and I chose that word very carefully – bad news feels like a daily assault) is REALLY hard. It’s pervasive and seductive. It can be captivating. I admit to getting pulled into the vortex of coverage of the tragedy in Las Vegas. It was only for a few hours, but I can testify that it changed how I was feeling – physically (I had an ache in my stomach), emotionally (how could you not be disgusted, enraged, anxious, fearful, worried), and energetically (can we say DRAINING, anyone?). And did me feeling bad in all these ways help anyone? Can I be more effective and impactful when I’m nurturing myself on awesomeness? (sidenote: when was the last time you found some nurturing awesomeness on the 11 0’clock news? Don’t look there for it!) If a good old healthy serving of blissful ignorance means I can feel good, function good and impact the world with good – bring it on!

Because I didn’t want my son (or you) to think my ignorance-choice was all about me (*wink*), I couldn’t let my argument rest there. Time to bring in the good old LOA (Law of Attraction). We know that, according to LOA, like attracts like. Investing in the emotions of tragedy feeds tragedy. Trying to get inside the mind of evil (which I believe is ultimately impossible for rational thinkers) feeds evil thinking. What if I, (and my son, and you, and as many people as we could get to join us) just stopped giving negativity the time of day? What if we flooded our thoughts and energy into all the greatness that exists in the world? It’s there and it’s abundant. It might not be as attention getting or sexy-enough-for-prime-time…. Yet. But I believe it’s what will eventually change the world. And I’ll tell you – it feels a lot better believing that than what you’ll find on CNN.

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